Leaving a great legacy includes offering correction when your children make mistakes. This responsibility of parenting often causes major disagreements in marriage, because no two people see everything alike. In any moment, one spouse will likely be a tougher disciplinarian than the other. Sometimes it depends on the circumstances, sometimes it depends on which child it is, sometimes it depends which spouse has been offended most. But you must not allow your disagreement to become ambivalence or your children will rule the roost, and that makes them feel insecure. The two most important corrective words you must teach your children early in life are "come" and "no." Kids who never learn to respect and respond to authority will struggle their entire lives. Nobody gets her or his way all the time. If you don't set clear limits for your children now, they'll never understand the concept later in life, and they will have great difficulty in relationships - in their own families, with co-workers, and even with God.
“Chasten your son while there is hope, And do not set your heart on his destruction.”
Proverbs 19:18 NKJV